There’s no better way to jumpstart your sexual self-discovery than with mutual masturbation. Mutual masturbation is more than sex for lazy people, a solution for singles or a taboo subject. It’s an activity that can take your sex life to the next level and help you learn more about your own and your partner’s body. So read up on this article, snag your favorite sex toys and your loved one, and ready yourself for sincere sexual euphoria. 

Why Should You Try Mutual Masturbation?

1. It allows you to explore each other’s bodies.

Even though you might have had sex with your partner countless times, it doesn’t necessarily mean you know what gives him the most pleasure. And chances are, he doesn’t even know it himself. While women are more likely to experiment with stimulation because they can achieve different types of orgasms, men’s masturbation tends to be a means to an end. This is why mutual masturbation can help you improve things; it allows you to discover the way your partner likes being touched without the pressure of having an orgasm or without using it as a stepping stone to penetrative sex. While stimulating each other’s genitals is usually a form of foreplay, mutual masturbation is more about focusing and staying in the present without moving fast. With a bit of practice, you can learn how to use sex toys to stimulate multiple erogenous zones simultaneously. 

2. It can improve your communication skills.

Unfortunately or fortunately, mutual masturbation is rarely as straightforward as penetration and requires direct communication. Talking about your likes and dislikes with your clothes off is a different kind of vulnerability. Letting your partner know what feels good and what doesn’t might help you become more comfortable with expressing your needs which is a critical quality outside of the bedroom as well. An ability to see things from your partner’s perspective and to say, ‘It’s okay, we can try something else’ can be a helpful skill when you’re having a disagreement. Couples masturbating together tend to be more patient and look for solutions that work for both. 

3. It can help you bond.

Masturbation is viewed as an activity for single people, and while it’s true it’s typically practiced in private, it should be a part of every relationship. Since mutual masturbation is usually done while looking at each other or sitting in front of each other, it might make you feel more self-conscious about your body and its reactions. On the flip side, sharing this kind of vulnerability with your partner can help you bond. While having someone inside can’t get you any more physically closer, masturbation takes the win for emotional closeness. 

4. It allows you to explore a different side of sex.

While touching each other’s genitals is the typical scenario here, you can be a bit more imaginative than that. Have your partner watch you while you’re touching yourself – he can still masturbate at the same time, but the focus is on you. Couples masturbating together appreciate different kinds of touch and sensations, making sex more satisfying. Additionally, it can help you view masturbation as a complete act, not an introduction to sex. Sex can take on many forms, and penetration isn’t an option for everyone. For example, mutual masturbation is an excellent solution for women who struggle with vaginal dryness or vaginal pain. 

5. Low STDs transmission risk.

Unless you’re not being careful, mutual masturbation carries no STD risk. If you’re one of these people who worry about catching a disease or if you’re diagnosed with one, it’s a pretty safe option. 

6. ‘Mutual’ is the keyword.

Sometimes no matter how thoughtful and selfless your partner is, the focus is on his pleasure during the intercourse because that’s how we’ve all been conditioned to view sex – we have patriarchy to thank for that. But with mutual masturbation, orgasm isn’t the goal; it’s the experience itself. If you stimulate your partner at the same time as he’s touching you, you can achieve a balance between a desire to fulfill your and your partner’s needs. Similarly, the more aroused your partner is, the more excited he’ll be about giving you pleasure as well.  

7. It can be a foreplay upgrade.

As you let go of expectations while engaging in mutual masturbation, you might realize that taking things slowly makes your body crave penetration like nothing else. This can make penetrative sex even more exciting than usual and improve your orgasms.

8. You can witness your partner orgasm.

How many times have you paid attention to your partner’s facial expression when he orgasms? It might be tricky when you’re having penetrative sex because not every position allows you to face each other all the time, and it’s easy to get distracted. Mutual masturbation, however, forces you to face your partner and maintain eye contact for a prolonged period of time. For the same reason, it might cater to your exhibitionist/voyeuristic fantasies. You might even end up finding yourself a new kink. 

9. It’s an opportunity to introduce sex toys.

Mutual masturbation is the best opportunity to introduce sex toys because it focuses on exploring different sensations instead of making the other partner orgasm. And on that note, once your partner falls in love with the way you look when you orgasm, he might no longer feel threatened by your beautiful rabbit vibrator. Plus, your partner’s body won’t be in the way, so you can pair his fingers with a dildo. He can benefit from sex toys such as cock rings or a butt plug. 

How To Practice Mutual Masturbation:

1. Have an honest talk first.

Ask your partner if he’s interested in mutual masturbation and explain what it would involve. If your partner cares about your needs, there’s no reason for him to say no, but it’s best if both sides know what to expect to avoid misunderstandings.

2. Make it intimate.

Being watched by your partner the entire time might be stressful. Set the scene with sensual music and candles, and try to focus on connecting with him on an emotional level. Look into your partner’s eyes and start slow. You might even use some of the tantric sex techniques, such as synchronizing your breathing and exploring your erogenous zones before moving onto each other’s genitals. The key is to be present in the moment and enjoy the experience. You can also massage each other’s bodies to relax. 

3. Try lube.

Lube can sharpen your senses and spice things up a bit if you aren’t that keen on mutual masturbation. Plus, it’s your vagina’s best friend if you have stage fright. 

4. Consider getting a new sex toy.

You probably already have a vibrator in your drawer, but there are many other options you should explore; nipple clippers, butt plugs, cock rings, and more. Couples using sex toys tend to be more sexually satisfied as it allows them to be more comfortable with each other and enjoy more variety in the bedroom. 

5. Try different positions.

The most typical position involves sitting in front of each other, but you can also lie on the side in a spooning position. 

6. Consider taking things to the next level.

Once you become more comfortable with mutual masturbation, consider masturbating in front of the mirror, which can boost your confidence and satisfy your exhibitionist fantasies. 

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